Tuesday, June 19, 2007

So sad, I want to pat the fish

At School they have a little fish tank with a goldfish in it. This morning they told me how the kids have all done really well with it, they take turns feeding it, and they have all gotten past the stage of trying to get the fish out of the tank to hold/look at it.

This afternoon... I turned up to a boy in angst and tears, they said he was upset coz he wasn't allowed to have the fish. He couldn't cope with leaving so we tried to forcibly carry him to the car, he dropped to the ground and lay on the path for a while, then we did pick him up and carry him. We got him to the car but then he couldn't sit in the seat.

After about 3-4 minutes with him collapsed on the floor wringing his fingers and mine, and completely unable to listen, I dragged a seatbelt across him as best I could and went for home. After all it's only 700metres from school.


We got home and he couldn't get out of the car, so I had to forcibly carry him again, though he didn't struggle quite so badly this time. After getting in the gate he wandered around the yard with his hands over his ears for a few moments, then came to the gate and cried "Open, open, open." He really really wanted the fish.

I got him upstairs and into the shower for a bit of relax and desensitize. He's stopped crying, and seems a bit calmer.. I'll see how he is after I get him out, I'm sure he'll be ok in a bit of time, it's just heart-wrenching when he's so upset and there really is not a thing I can do.

This is the biggest meltdown he's had all year, he is tired, he did eat wrong foods on the weekend with the Birthday party he went to, but this is the first time in 6 months where he's lost it so completely. Poor boy, if only he could express what it is that is causing the pain, we could do more about it.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Those Special Moments

Last night Jonathan was very tired after Movieworld, and a little earlier than usual bedtime he grabbed daddy's hand and dragged him off upstairs... I wasn't sure what they were doing but Jono wanted him and Daddy was happy to go. I went up a few minutes later getting the other 2 ready for bed, and Jono and Daddy were both in Jono's bed snugging together. Not quite sure why, but Jono decided Daddy was to tuck him in.. it was very sweet.

Today Sarah and I were out driving, and she pipes up, "You know what I like about you Mummy?". I said "What?" She said, "When you tickle Jono". I asked "Why is that?", her response... "Coz it makes me happy". I love our kids.

I also wanted to share this with everyone, take a moment to check out these clips, and the comments... bring some tissues.

http://www.whatkindofworlddoyouwant.com/videos/view/id/213154

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Movieworld!

Well there was a long weekend and we haven't gone away or done anything major as a family since Cairns... which was September, so we decided to take advantage of the extra day off and go to Movieworld.

It was a fantastic day out, and everyone really enjoyed themselves.

We started the day with Daniel and Daddy on the Spooky Rollercoaster, this may not have been the greatest idea, Daniel got off in absolute tears he was sooo scared by it all. While waiting Jono, Sarah and I played around on an old horse drawn cart, I sat up the front and Jono just wanted to sit on my legs, in the sun, and hold my hand... it was lovely.

The next ride was the wild west one.. all in a boat river ride, through some dark areas, some sections were backwards, and the end of it a long slide down into water... all 3 kids were crying on this one. During the ride Jono got very scared and wanted to get out, but he let me keep him in, and then put his head down on the bar in front and just screamed and cried. When it ended he was desperate to get off, and after we hit land he collapsed in a pile of tears on the ground... not angry, just... well.. terrified.

We stopped for a snack and gave everyone a chance to calm down then went to the kiddie rides. Sarah and Daniel were thrilled and I went with them on a ride, but Jono didn't like the idea at all.. he watched a slow, level train do it laps for a while, then we had Daniel and Sarah queue up for it. Once they got off, and seemed to be happy about the ride.. Jono was queuing at the gate.

He had a go on that, then a pirate ship style ride.. 3 times, then we went to see a show. We came back to the kiddie area, and Daniel had a go with Sarah and Daddy on the Rollercoaster. Daniel and I went to Lethal Weapon earlier, and I told him 'When you are scared, really scream loud and chase the fear away'... but we couldn't go on it coz he's not quite tall enough yet. So when he was on the kiddie coaster he remembered this and screamed his heart out... and LOVED it, he came off with such joy and wanted to go again. Sarah, was in another pile of tears, it was too scary for her.

After that I took Jono and Sarah on the train again and the pirate ship.. I let them ride by themselves on the ship, and Jono was a bit scared at first, but I made sure he could see me and he handled himself really well.

The last thing of the day was the Shrek show, Jono couldn't handle going in there.. and he did that very clearly every time something like that freaked him out, he just grabbed me or Daddy's hand and forcibly pushed in the other direction.. not desperate, just determined. So Jono and I went shopping on the main street while the others saw the show.

An amazing day, everyone really enjoyed themselves and we came home exhausted... school the next day was a bit of a challenge, mainly getting people out of bed. I think we may get a season pass for there for Christmas and go a few times, so we can go when it's not such a big day and take the time that suits us :)

School is a great success

Choosing for Jono to go to Special School was definitely something difficult, but it has well and truly paid off. We are still waiting for words to bloom, but he makes his intentions known better than before, and is picking up body language a little better.

He really enjoys himself there and has made a few friends... or at least he has peers who know his world. We've had one of the boys over for a play day with his Mum and Dad, Jono and his classmate didn't really play together very much, but it was great for us to see another child in similar circumstance and be able to speak to parents who understand.

We have been invited to a birthday party with one of the other boys this wekend, and that is something special as well.

I've had a couple of clashes with his teacher, but we've spoken about it more in depth and have a common ground now. She'll make a quick statement about a behavior that she sees as important to work on for his capacity for acceptance and social comprehension for both him and other people... I take it personally, thinking.. you're the teacher... teach.. but after talking it through I see where she is coming from and how we can work on it at home. It really is a 2 part process, if we are all walking on common ground it makes a difference.